A Cross-Border Royal Wedding Of A Pakistani Boy And An Indian Girl

It is rightly said that a wedding not only unites the two souls taking the wedding vows, but also their respective families. However, this time it was the union of two nations that happened through this beautiful royal Rajput wedding on February 19, 2015. It was the wedding of Padmini Singh Rathore, from Jaipur, India, with Kunwar Karni Singh Sodha, from Umerkot, Pakistan.

So, as this beautiful wedding tied the two families from the other sides of the border in the bond of love, let us give you a peek into this royal affair.

The matchmaking

Being a cross-border wedding, you might have thought it to be a love marriage. But, it was an absolutely arranged affair that was fixed last year in June, when the couple exchanged rings in Jaipur after meeting each other at a relative’s place.

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Following this, the tikka ceremony took place in Pakistan in December, last year. It is believed that this is the first time after partition, that the tikka ceremony took place in Pakistan. And that made this wedding all the more special.

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As the customs do not allow them to marry within their own family, the suitable matches are hence found from India. And, that is how even this match was fixed!

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Meet the couple

The gorgeous bride, Padmini Singh Rathore, hails from the royal Kanota family of Jaipur district. Her father, Man Singh, owns the famous heritage hotels, Narain Niwas Palace and Castle Kanota. She is an alumnus of Maharani Gayatri Devi School, Jaipur and St Bedes College, Shimla, and specialises in graphic designing.

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The groom, Kunwar Karni Singh Sodha, belongs to the leading political and royal family of Umerkot district of Sindh, Pakistan. He graduated from Karachi and earned a degree in law from the University of London. His family owns the Umerkot Fort, which is famous for being the birthplace of the Mughal Emperor, Akbar, as the then Sodha ruler of Umerkot gave refuge to Humayun and his wife, after he was defeated by Sher Shah Suri. Karni Singh’s father, Rana Hamir Singh, is a renowned politician in Pakistan.

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The royal cross-border wedding

The baraat arrived from the other side of the border along with over 100 people. They were welcomed in a truly royal and grand style and were served a large variety of Rajasthani and Mughlai cuisines. The couple took the wedding vows at the royal Narain Niwas Palace.

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The bride, Padmini, said to a leading daily, “It is an arranged marriage and a girl takes time to acquaint herself with her in-laws and husband. I will settle with my husband at Umerkot in Pakistan after I get the visa.” As per the reports, the groom’s family will stay in Jaipur till Holi.

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Even though their marriage was arranged by the families, this beautiful couple truly symbolised love and harmony between the two nations.

5 Biggest Reasons Why Indian Youth Have Started To Opt For Late Marriages

Let’s face it. We live in a society where marriage is considered to be a priority for a young boy or girl. And as age passes them by, their friends and relatives start asking concerned questions about their marriage plans. For the elders of the family, a boy or girl can be truly happy and ‘complete’ only when they tie the holy knot.

However, a change is now slowly brewing in the society. The definition of ‘marriageable age’ is evolving and, youngsters are taking their own sweet time, to find a right partner for themselves. We bring to you here, the top five reasons, why late marriages are slowly becoming a trend at least in the urban youth.

#1. Career is foremost

From Aishwarya Rai Bachchan (who married at the age of 33) to the girl next door, women are increasingly focusing on their careers. Marriage, therefore, has taken a backseat. “I have a fantastic job that takes up most of my time and energy. I just have Sundays to myself, which I spend catching up on sleep or with my friends! My mother is after my life to meet boys she has shortlisted from a matrimonial site, but where is the time?,” says Ritika Gulati (name changed), who works for a leading television channel.

#2. Spoilt for choices

Until a few years ago, marriage alliances were sought only through marriage bureaus or brokers, newspaper ads, and friends and relatives. The choices were thus limited. Today, there is no dearth of choices. There are several apps and sites offering a huge database to choose from. Hence, people take so much more time to decide. There is a change in the entire concept of an arranged marriage. Fritzi-Marie Titzmann, PhD from Humboldt University, Berlin, in her book ‘Changing Patterns Of Matchmaking In India’ has also observed that, the upcoming matrimonial media allows youth a much wider range of choices now.

#3. Making their own decisions

With economic independence, it is the youngsters who now call the shots in taking the bigger decisions of their lives. Gone are the days when parents fixed the matrimonial match, and the bride and groom only met as a formality. Maximum profiles on matrimonial sites are created by the boy and the girl themselves. “I know exactly what I want in my life partner. So, I can’t let my parents or anyone else handle my profile. I want to meet the girl without the entire family, before I take the decision of my life, and I can’t do that in a rush. These things take time,” says 32 year old, Vaibhav Chawla.

#4. Live-in has become popular

The statistics of couples who opt to live-in before marriage is on the rise. If the couple are physically close, it is no longer an issue that will raise eyebrows. It has now become a means to stregthen the bond of friendship before stepping into marriage. And in case, you don’t get along, it is so much simpler to break-up, rather than go through the long drawn procedure of a leagl divorce. Yash Raj’s movie, Shuddh Desi Romance, captured the trend precisely.Priyanka and Sushmit, have been staying together, for almost two years, in Noida, while their families are in Kolkata. “Our parents are not aware that we are living-in. It is actually a matter of convenience since we both were paying separate rents, but we are mostly together! We will get married, but there is no rush,” says Priyanka.

#5. Science to trick the biological clock

Yes, the biological clock is ticking, but now there are medical solutions available. IVF (In-Vitro Fertilisation) is the modern-day career-oriented woman’s friend. Noted director and choreographer, Farah Khan, became a mother of three at the age of 40 through this technology. There are other celebrities, like Aamir Khan and Kiran Rao, who went for IVF surrogacy. “IVF is a safe technology for women who are unable to conceive naturally. There is an increase in the number of women who marry late, and go for IVF to plan their family,” says Dr Bandana Sodhi, Gynaecologist at a leading hospital in Delhi.

While late marriages are now becoming a trend in India, there are some disadvantages of late marriages too. A lot of couples who get married late, sometimes confess that they have no interest in intimacy, or they feel very confined after leading an independent life. So, keep in mind all these factors, and decide to enter matrimony only if you are completely ready for it. The decision, of course, is all yours.

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1) Adam met Eve through a common friend.

2) Eve thought Adam was the most adorable friend she ever had.

3) Adam and Eve met through a matrimonial website.

4) Adam and Eve worked in same company and hated the same boss.

Well, no matter how every Adam and Eve meet, but their story never ends at marriage, unlike those in the fairytales or the movies. In real world, the actual story begins with the marriage.

While few early years in most of the marriages might feel like a fairytale, the rest might not be the same for all couples. Once the honeymoon phase begins to fade away, you get to see the ‘other side’ of your partner. And it all comes to your notice when:
  • Life is not only all about sharing a coffee, but sharing the dinner every night;
  • Adam is no more just appreciative of Eve’s gorgeous dresses, but also keeps check on the price tags;
  • Eve no longer finds Adam’s possessive behaviour charming. It rather irritates her whenever he tries to keep a check on her;
  • Honeymoon is over and life gets to dirty dishes, laundry, home loan, car service, to name a few.

But wait, and relax! It has nothing to do with the fault in our stars. It is how our world is and this is how the marriages are. The two are so different, yet they cannot live without each other. So, even if the usual habits of ‘XX’ and ‘XY’ chromosomes tend to bring any problems in the relationship- a little sugar, a little spice, kiss-of-love, and pinch of empathy are your tools to fix it all.

Hence, for all those who feel connected to all these situations, here are some tips on how you can share a genuinely strong bond of love with your partner forever, despite the behavioural differences created by the ‘male’ and ‘female’ genes.

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#1. ‘Me-time’ and ‘Let Me Be’

Undoubtedly, you are close to your partner, but you need to free yourself at times and let the other one loosen up too. Be it meeting up their old friends or just pursuing a hobby, giving sustainable breathing space to each other helps the relationship to live longer.

So, just stop nagging, pin-pointing, and showering infinite loop of suggestions. This way, you would be respecting the relationship in true sense, and would get the same in return from your partner.

This is actually a very effective method of keeping the love alive in a relationship. Don’t believe us? Well, then you must read these 5 Reasons Why Being Selfish is Good for Your Marriage

#2. Divide and conquer

He can’t do it all and she can’t do it all; but together they can build a castle. Being aware of one’s duties in the household and completing them without any reminders can actually do wonders.

Dividing responsibilities and taking charge of different department(s) of the house, plays an instrumental role in striking harmony. It takes two to tango, so isn’t it better if both are dancing to hit the perfect chord?

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#3. Right decision at right times

Couples take impulsive decisions at times, like the wife abandoning her job post-marriage, or husband choosing to tie the knot though inclined to go for higher studies. And, most suicidal of all- starting a family when not prepared for it.

Any wrongly calculated decisions can have negative butterfly-effect on the happiness of your married life. So be sure of your decisions, weigh all options, talk to experts if need be, and try not to impose your decision on your partner. And once taken, own up to your decision. No blame-gaming!

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#4. Remain Romantic

Adding romance to your diet is not just healthy for your relationship, but also for your body, mind and soul. Feeling young at heart and staying connected with your partner are good enough reasons for the love to be around always .

So all you men, call in sick occasionally at office and take her on a surprise date. And ladies, surprise him at times when he comes home tired in the evening, with a romantic candle-light dinner at home followed by a wild time in bed. And needless to say, the rewards will follow naturally.

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#5. Realistic Expectation

Now that is the mantra of a successful marriage. Be reasonable, realistic and rational with your expectations towards your spouse. Do not kill yourself and other one just because your best friend’s or sibling’s spouse does something special for their spouse.

No one is perfect yet everyone is, in their own way. So, value what you have and avoid comparing your apples to someone else’s oranges.

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So, the gap between the men and the women is not actually as big as it is perceived to be. Try all that you can, such as selective hearing, giving benefit of doubt or even turning a blind-eye occasionally. And, just make the most of your relationship as well as life. Every little effort made to abridge this gap will fill your married life with love and happiness.